Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

101. How to Eliminate Scorekeeping and Resentment From Your Marriage

In your journey of overcoming pornography addiction and rebuilding trust in your relationship, it's so important to understand the root of the problem in a way that leads to lasting solutions.

In this episode, we'll explore five key points that will benefit any man seeking to overcome pornography addiction and a couple to repair their relationship.

1. Unraveling Resentment and Score-Keeping: Discover effective strategies to eliminate score-keeping and resentment that often plague relationships affected by pornography addiction. Unresolved issues can resurface and hinder growth, but we'll provide practical ways to break free from this cycle.

2. Shifting Perspectives: Breaking Free from the "Addict" Label: Let go of the limitations that come with labeling yourself or your partner as an addict. We'll explore a more empowering perspective that focuses on growth and acknowledges progress. Discover how this shift can pave the way for positive change.

3. Unveiling Unmet Needs: Explore the connection between unaddressed emotional needs and unresolved hurt within your relationship. By understanding and addressing these underlying issues, you can foster a deeper connection with your partner and prevent recurring problems.

4. Rebuilding Trust and Healing Resentment: Learn from inspiring real-life stories of couples who successfully rebuilt trust and overcame resentment. Discover actionable steps to nurture open communication, vulnerability, and understanding within your relationship. Witness the transformation from hurt to healing.

5. Empowering Change: Tools for Effective Communication: Uncover practical techniques that can transform anger and frustration into open and effective communication. Explore how this key skill can nurture your relationship, creating a foundation of trust and intimacy.

For therapy with Sam:

Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

 

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Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

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Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

100. Instantly Reduce Relapses With This Simple Tweak

In the process of overcoming pornography addiction, so many men focus on tracking sobriety. However, there is a big problem with using that as the measurement of success –

 

• Unintentionally it creates fear, concern and anxiety about when the next time I slip will occur.

• It amplifies discouragement and decreases motivation whenever there is a slip after a long streak occurs

• Focusing on avoiding slips doesn't actually mean you're making progress resolving the core issue

• It often can contribute to dishonesty because a husband doesn't want to disclose to his wife and start from zero

 

There is a better way to not only more effectively track progress, but do it in a way that increases confidence, contributes to more honesty and openness in the relationship, and creates and mental space of openness and relaxation which actually promotes more growth.

 

Tune into this episode to understand the small tweak you can Implement today that can have an instant result and how you feel and in your progress.

 

The previous episode I referenced in this show about how to properly disclose a slip is episode number 87.

 

For therapy with Sam:

Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction:

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Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

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Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

99. Get Unlimited Motivation to Overcome Pornography Addiction

When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, both he and his wife often feel concerned that he'll run out of motivation to stay consistent. 

And it's true, using methods that don't work can leave him feeling discouraged, frustrated and exhausted. 

In this episode I share with you two specific strategies to give you unlimited motivation to stay consistent, focused and steady when it comes to putting in the effort necessary to become the person you were meant to be. 

Hearing these strategies can also help a wife feel reassured as he's taking a new approach so that she doesn't feel fear of the other shoe dropping.

If you want to go deeper into learning how to stop negative communication cycles in your relationship that I mentioned in this episode, check out episodes 96 and 97.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

98. 3 Strategies to Overcome a Man’s Knee-Jerk Dishonesty With His Wife

One of the most damaging things to a relationship is dishonesty. He completely undermines trust, makes a woman second-guess everything her husband says, and at least two arguments and fighting.

So often, many men have a knee-jerk reaction of being dishonest despite him knowing that it causes more damage.

Instead of pushing harder for honesty and reminding him of how important it is to tell the truth, there is a different way to approach this problem to resolve it on a deeper level.

In this episode I share with you three specific strategies you can implement today in order to work through what's causing the dishonesty at the core so you can have a relationship built on a foundation of truth and trust.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

97. New Tools for When Communication Breaks Down (Part 2)

In the previous episode I talked about the negative communication cycles that every couple get stuck in. I shared with you the formula to communicate effectively to create understanding and connection between you and your spouse.

But what if you run into roadblocks and that communication doesn't work when you try it?

This episode is all about how to address the three most common blocks (and tools to fix it) where communication breaks down despite your best efforts.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

96. Breaking Negative Communication Cycles and Preventing Arguments (Part 1)

Every couple gets caught in negative communication cycles. When there is anger, defensiveness, shutting down and avoidance, it makes it impossible for a couples to find connection and resolution to the problems they are facing.

In this episode I share with you the most common negative cycle and the specific formula detailing how you can escape the pattern to create a file of connection and understanding between you and your spouse.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

95. 3 Strategies to Build Your Self Esteem

Pornography addiction has a huge impact on the self-esteem of the husband who struggles as well as his wife who has been devastated by his addiction. 

In this episode, I share with you three specific strategies that you can use immediately to begin to rebuild your self-esteem, increase your confidence and feelings of worth, and feel more hopeful and optimistic about the future.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

94. How to Deal With Urges For Pornography Without Needing Willpower

Get ready for an eye-opening episode where we tackle the challenge of overcoming the urge to watch pornography. 

Join us as we delve into a new way to deal with the triggers and nagging thoughts that constantly tempt men towards pornography.

In this episode, I share a unique approach that throws traditional willpower and discipline out the window and help you discover a new approach that is sustainable and more comfortable to help you overcome an urge without needing to work harder.

This episode is all about revolutionizing the way we deal with addiction and offering you a fresh perspective for lasting change. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

93. Self Compassion: A Research-Based Tool to Reduce Slips and Heal Trauma

Do you ever feel trapped in the same addiction cycle, struggling for years without making any progress?

You're not alone. But there's one secret that can help you break free and heal for good: self-compassion.

Many people believe that being hard on themselves will make them do better, but research shows that self-compassion is the key to overcoming addiction.

In this episode, we'll share the story of a client who felt trapped in a vicious cycle of shame and self-loathing, and how we helped him see that self-compassion was the answer.

We'll discuss the power of treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even when you slip or relapse.

Don't give up hope - you can break free from addiction. Start with self-compassion, and we'll be here to support you every step of the way.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

92. Tools For A Marriage When There’s No Emotional Safety

Today we're going to talk about pornography addiction and how it can affect a marriage. 

It's a problem that undermines safety, destroys trust, and creates a feeling of betrayal for the spouse. 

But the good news is that there are three things you can do to address this problem and save your marriage from being stuck in a cycle of mistrust and pain.

When a relationship lacks safety, it can be hard for the other spouse to let their guard down and be vulnerable. The husband's addiction becomes a wedge between the couple, and it takes a toll on the relationship. 

But it's important to understand that the husband is not the problem. The addiction is the problem, and the goal is to help the husband break out of the addiction and create a sense of safety and connection in the marriage.

Fear is what's driving the mistrust and pain in the relationship, and it's important to address the reasons behind the lack of trust and safety. Whether it's low self-worth, feelings of rejection, or ingrained habits, it's important to deal with the addiction directly and get the tools needed to overcome it. 

Without directly addressing the addiction, the spouse will never feel safe, and the cycle of mistrust and pain will continue.

So, if you or someone you know is struggling with pornography addiction in a marriage, listen to this episode for practical tips on how to create safety, rebuild trust, and have the kind of relationship you desire.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.