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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Saturday Mar 26, 2022
The 90-Day Blueprint to Overcome Pornography Addiction
Saturday Mar 26, 2022
Saturday Mar 26, 2022
Is it possible to overcome pornography addiction in just 90 days? With the right tools and approach it is. Listen to this episode to discover the exact blueprint and approach to finding freedom.
In this episode, I break down the most overlooked element in the healing process, which keeps people stuck for years spinning their wheels and feeling discouraged.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Feb 25, 2022
A Couples Success Story: 3 Key Tools That Saved Their Marriage From Divorce
Friday Feb 25, 2022
Friday Feb 25, 2022
The road to healing a marriage can feel hopeless and overwhelming, so I brought on a couple, John and Ann, who went from separation and almost divorcing twice to now feeling more connected and secure together than ever.
They share their struggles of trying to overcome the impact of a pornography addiction, what specific things helped them the most, how they could grow closer together in their marriage, and the most effective thing that he did to help her with her triggers.
Instead of getting stuck in old cycles of defensiveness, frustration, and avoidance, they now can have conversations together, work through triggers and pain, and know exactly how to reconnect whenever something comes up.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 10, 2022
Overcome Shame, Guilt, and Regret with Sathiya Sam
Thursday Feb 10, 2022
Thursday Feb 10, 2022
When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, he often feels shame, guilt, and regret because of his decisions. In order to find freedom, working through these negative emotions is critical.
Today’s episode I have Sathiya, a man who is overcome pornography addiction himself and now helps other men find freedom as well, and he shares his approach for overcoming these negative emotions, finding forgiveness of self, and ultimately achieving freedom from addiction.
You can find more information about Sathiya, along with his new book here:
https://www.sathiyasam.com/
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jan 27, 2022
Thursday Jan 27, 2022
Traditional pornography addiction recovery typically takes 3-5 years, according to established therapists in the industry. The problem is that most people don’t want to spend that long fighting such an exhausting battle.
The problem with the traditional way of overcoming porn addiction is that it’s centered on managing the symptoms instead of resolving the core issue. Things like group attendance, accountability, filters, using willpower to fight urges, all of these old methods are ineffective and eliminating the root of addiction.
In this episode I share with you the most important thing you need to address if you truly want to find freedom from pornography addiction once and for all. Once you address the root problem and resolve it, freedom from addiction can take less than 90 days.
And I define freedom as it no longer be a part of your life, you don’t think about, you don’t have to fight against urges or temptations, you just feel normal and can live your life without feeling afraid of it returning or constantly being on the lookout for triggers that you should avoid.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Monday Jan 10, 2022
The Traditional Way of Seeing Addiction Can Harm You – Try This Instead
Monday Jan 10, 2022
Monday Jan 10, 2022
In the traditional way of overcoming addiction and restoring a marriage, the husbands is often seen as the bad guy. The message is that he is the problem, there’s something wrong with him, he’s in a one-down position and is less-than.
When he gets that message, he often feels discouraged, not good enough, and always in the hole, never able to heal and move forward. His wife often feels disconnected from him, very unsafe, and unable to bring her wall down.
There’s a much more empowering and effective way to see pornography addiction recovery, healing trauma, and restoring the marriage.
In this episode I share with you some specific examples that can help you see and experience interactions with your spouse differently, which can help you to move forward and beyond the pain instead of feeling manipulated, not good enough, and unloved.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Dec 23, 2021
Struggling With Self-Worth? Here Are Some Powerful Tools to Help
Thursday Dec 23, 2021
Thursday Dec 23, 2021
So many people struggle with feeling low self-worth and the depression / anxiety that accompanies it.
In this episode I share some powerful strategies to help you increase your self-worth and how to experience feeling more love for yourself.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Dec 17, 2021
The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered
Friday Dec 17, 2021
Friday Dec 17, 2021
So many women I work tell me that almost everything can be a trigger – the movies, tv shows, going out to eat, women in the grocery story, billboards, you name it.
It’s overwhelming to constantly feel on guard and anxious because any of these triggers sends her into fear and uncertainty, and sadly, so often their husbands don’t know how to respond to help her.
In this episode I share one of the most common triggers that women experience and exactly how to diffuse it, and how her husband can help in the process.
The more involved he is, not only does it help her work through the triggers faster, but it strengthens her trust in him and increases the safety and connection they both feel.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Dec 03, 2021
Everything is Always My Fault
Friday Dec 03, 2021
Friday Dec 03, 2021
When people are working through the process of overcoming pornography addiction, healing from betrayal trauma, and restoring their marriage, there are obviously ups and downs.
It’s easy for couple to fall back into old patterns of arguments and fighting, lack of trust, and issues with their sexual relationship, so in this episode I shared the strategy and approach to addressing these three common situations that are barriers to creating a fulfilling relationship.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Nov 18, 2021
How to Quickly Diffuse a Fight Before It Even Begins
Thursday Nov 18, 2021
Thursday Nov 18, 2021
When working to repair your relationship after the effects of porn addiction, learning how to stop fights and diffuse them is critical. The more couples fight, the more alone and disconnected they feel, and if you don’t know how to effectively come back together, the relationship continues to suffer.
In this episode I share exactly how to diffuse a fight (every time) and prevent things from escalating. Learning this one skill will help you not only have a strong relationship together, but will open the door to resolving each of the problems that you experience in your marriage and work through them effectively.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Nov 04, 2021
If You Can‘t Deeply Feel God‘s or Your Spouse‘s Love, Here‘s What Helped Me
Thursday Nov 04, 2021
Thursday Nov 04, 2021
I was a teenager and had a hard time feeling love - from family, friends, and from God. I believed they loved me, I knew intellectually they did, but I had a hard time feeling it.
For many people I work with who are affected by a pornography addiction, they have a hard time feeling and experiencing love because they don't feel worthy, have low self-esteem, or have a hard time feeling in general.
In this episode, I share exactly how to increase your ability to feel love so you can more fully feel satisfaction and fulfillment as a result of deeper connection with God and your loved ones.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.