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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Thursday Jan 04, 2024
Thursday Jan 04, 2024
When a pornography addiction or habit is discovered in a relationship, it causes significant damage.
Trust is broken, there's a lack of emotional safety, and it often causes a woman to redefine the entire relationship and question the past.
Despite the significant damage, couples who get the right tools can fully heal the pain of the past, eliminate pornography use, and move forward with closure and connection.
In this episode I share with you exactly how to move forward through the damage and how husband can be an influence for healing and stability in his.
For therapy with Sam:
I'll help you quit porn within the next 90 days (or I'll work with you for free until you do) – visit stopporn.info to get more information.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Dec 28, 2023
Thursday Dec 28, 2023
Most people don’t want to stay in pain any longer than they already have. They want the process to speed up, to find closure and peace sooner, and move forward with a feeling of resolution…
But what if she’s not ready to just leave it all behind?
So many men want to leave the past behind as quickly as possible, because they recognize the impact of their actions has had a tremendous effect on their wife.
He doesn't want her to suffer anymore than she already has, so in his desires to move forward, unintentionally, she feels left behind and her pain gets ignored.
This produces a cycle of her bringing up the past so she can find healing, but the husband sees it as a lack of progress, feels discouraged, and then tries to rush the process along even more.
If you've ever been caught in this pattern, in this episode I share with you one of the most important ways to navigate to move forward quickly while still making sure that the pain she feels is getting the attention and care it deserves.
For therapy with Sam:
I'll help you quit porn within the next 90 days (or I'll work with you for free until you do) – visit stopporn.info to get more information.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Dec 21, 2023
Thursday Dec 21, 2023
What do you do when you struggle with feelings of needing validation from a source outside of yourself?
Whether it’s sexual attention from a woman, making a lot of money, doing and accomplishing things, or looking a certain way, it’s a trap that leads to more heartache.
In this episode, I share how both a husband and wife can work through these underlying issues that lead to validation seeking and coping in destructive ways.
The more you can recognize and resolve the root cause, the more peace, fulfillment, and worth you can feel in a healthy, sustainable way.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Dec 14, 2023
Thursday Dec 14, 2023
Have you ever wanted to know exactly what it’s going to take to eliminate pornography and have a connected relationship with your spouse?
As I have initial calls with men, I often hear them say they are willing to do whatever it takes, they just don't know exactly what to do.
In this episode, I share with you, one of the most important elements that helps engage and sustain men in the process of quitting pornography. I also share the very best strategy that you can implement in order to make success possible for you in this journey.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Dec 07, 2023
Thursday Dec 07, 2023
When struggling to overcome pornography addiction or a habit, have you ever had the conversation that goes something like this:
If there's another relapse again, our marriage is over.
If I catch you watching something again, I'm leaving.
And if you have had that conversation in your relationship, how did it feel?
What effect did it end up having?
So many couples I work with have high standards for their relationship - no pornography.. but what happens when that standard is broken?
Is it possible to have high standards while maintaining room for growth and development?
This episode, I share with you exactly how you can have this conversation together without feeling stuck and minimize the hiding and lying that occur due to the fears of failure.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Nov 30, 2023
Thursday Nov 30, 2023
Can having sex make it hard for him to quit watching pornography?
Is a pornography addiction or habit fueled by sex with a spouse?
The men and women I work with want to have a fulfilling relationship, which includes sexual intimacy.
In this episode, I share with you, the most important considerations when it comes to making sure sex doesn’t cause a breakdown in the marriage or fuel the patterns he’s wanting to get away from.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Nov 24, 2023
Friday Nov 24, 2023
When a man struggles with a pornography addiction or habit, it shatters trust and security in his relationship.
Most men desperately seek to repair and restore the relationship, but sadly find themselves struggling to help her feel better despite making positive changes individually.
This episode of share with you, three specific ways, couples can approach the healing process together to help her pain heal and ultimately find closure.
After 15,000 hours of doing therapy with clients, these are the top tools that I've had the most difference in the lives of my clients.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Nov 16, 2023
Thursday Nov 16, 2023
Have you ever contemplated ending your relationship because of the hurt and pain you’re feeling?
Or because of broken communication that leads to fights or distance and you're not sure how to repair your marriage, despite everything that you've tried?
You’re not alone.
So many couples get stuck in negative cycles that break down their love and relationship, leading to resentment and distance.
I had the awesome opportunity to work with a couple who reached out right on the brink of divorce after having done multiple programs, therapy, and no matter what they did, it just wasn’t working.
So I knew we had to take a totally different approach, and if you listen back on episode 108 - I actually took you behind the scenes and recorded a session that this couple and I had together so you could get a sense of how these tools apply to a difficult, real life situation.
So in less than 3 months, this couple went from almost getting divorced to feeling so excited and connected in their relationship.
And this episode today is a conversation I had with them where they share how they got there, what were the most helpful things they did on the journey, how he created safety in their marriage, and the totally different way they learned to process the triggers that used to cause arguments in the past.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Wednesday Nov 08, 2023
Wednesday Nov 08, 2023
When a man struggles with pornography, addiction or habit, it’s devastating to his wife.
She will express her hurt and pain to him hoping that the behavior will stop, but when it continues to happen, it creates hopelessness and despair.
In those moments, it's easy for her to interpret the situation as ‘he doesn’t love me or care about me, what’s why he keeps doing it.’
When that is how she interprets his behavior, that creates even more pain in her heart.
But what if there was a different way to understand this situation and why he’s doing this?
In this episode, I share one of the best ways I’ve seen couples navigate this issue, develop a stronger bond between each other, and create closure from the past.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Nov 02, 2023
Thursday Nov 02, 2023
Imagine what life would feel like if you didn’t have any desire to look at pornography.
You just simply had no interest in it anymore?
What if you just felt “normal” and could just go about your day without worrying about temptations and urges?
Well, it’s possible. And it’s one of the best feelings in the world.
In this episode I want to share with you exactly how you can achieve that and leverage that heart change to create safety and trust in your marriage
How can you achieve this?
The desire for porn will go away when your inner void is filled with something that actually meets your needs.
So many men use porn as a method of filling their internal void, but it just doesn’t work.
In this episode, I share with you three specific examples of clients who had different voids and how they resolved them in a healthy way.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.