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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Thursday Mar 14, 2024
Thursday Mar 14, 2024
After the discovery of pornography use, it shatters the foundation of the entire relationship. Naturally, it becomes the center of most conversations as you try to resolve the issues and pain it causes.
Then after you start making some progress, many couples wonder how long they need to keep talking about things? They often tend to have the same conversations over and over again, so they wonder what the next steps are and when they can move forward without always talking about it.
In this episode, I share with you, the key indicators that you're ready to move forward and how you can find closure and resolution if you're not quite there yet.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 07, 2024
Thursday Mar 07, 2024
Couples can very easily get stuck when a husband has a slip up, acts like things are normal, and then his wife finds out that he searched for something and didn’t tell her.
This can cause a wife to spiral into distrust, self protection, anger and fear all over again and it has such a big impact on the relationship and their sense of progress together.
Her wall goes up, she feels suspicious of anything he says, can’t believe anything he says.
Tune in to today's episode to get to specific things you can do to work through this situation together.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 29, 2024
Thursday Feb 29, 2024
March 18th: Join the free 5 Day 'Overcome Your Urges' Challenge to get tools to resolve the root cause of your urges so you can eliminate them instead of resisting them.
It can be very discouraging when there is a mismatch between husband and wife, and how they view their progress.
If hey husband thinks he's making strides towards creating safety and rebuilding trust, but the wife doesn't agree, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and lose hope.
This episode, I share three specific things you can do to get on the same page together with your partner and create safety.
There are some activities that move the needle more than others. So in this episode I talk about the ones that matter most so you can focus your efforts on those.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 22, 2024
Thursday Feb 22, 2024
The idea of being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel overwhelming.
After all, a “personality disorder” is a serious thing…
But what if people slinging this diagnosis have been wrong the whole time?
What if there was different a way to understand why someone engages in destructive behaviors?
In this episode, I do a deep dive in unpacking narcissism and why this label usually makes it hard for both people to make progress and change.
I share what really drives negative behaviors in a relationship and how you can actually change without needing medication or some other intervention to control symptoms.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 15, 2024
Thursday Feb 15, 2024
Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use.
Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use.
You've all heard about and have tried the tools – journaling, meditation, prayer, reading, etc.
But what if you try those things and you don't actually feel any better? What if you're not making progress, despite using all of the tools that you've learned about.
In this episode, I share with you exactly how to find closure and resolution as you're working on yourself and your marriage.
Most people leave out one key step that actually helps them to feel better.
So in this episode, I go deep into sharing what you can do to make the tools work for you.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 08, 2024
Thursday Feb 08, 2024
Safety is necessary in order for relationships to be repaired after pornography use.
Many women default to using an emotional wall to keep themselves safe after they discover their husband's pornography use.
As time goes on and he develops the skills and make the changes necessary, HE can become the source of safety for her and the relationship.
And when he is the source of safety, she can let the wall down and feel more connected and close with him.
In this episode, I share with you three different ways that you can free safety in your relationship.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 01, 2024
Thursday Feb 01, 2024
It's very easy for men to switch one bad coping mechanism (pornography) for another (food, video games, social media, TV, etc.).
Some people might see those things as far less harmful, so they allow themselves to do it.
However, swapping different coping mechanisms is actually really bad because the root of the issue remains unresolved, which sets you up to continue to spiral.
Why does this happen and how can we avoid it?
Check out the today's episode and get solutions to resolve this problem.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
Thursday Jan 25, 2024
In a relationship, having a strong feeling of security is so important.
When pornography addiction or habit is discovered, it completely undermines the security that she feels.
This causes lots of issues for both people and the relationship itself – a wall goes up, there's distrust, fear, inadequacy, and emptiness often felt by both people.
In today's episode, I'm sharing with you a specific tool you can implement right away so you can build security back into your marriage.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jan 18, 2024
Thursday Jan 18, 2024
Lots of people struggle with feelings of low self worth, unworthiness, inadequacy and a lack of self love.
Affirmations and being positive doesn’t seem to stick because we don’t actually believe the good things we are saying.
It can be hard to love ourselves if we mostly see all of our inadequacies and weaknesses. Especially if our shortcomings impact those who we love.
In this episode, I share with you, one of the most powerful tools to overcome feelings of inadequacy and low self worth, and instead feel self love and confidence.
I’ve been there and know how painful it is to feel unworthy and bad, but I’ve found a way to change how I see myself and I want to share it with you too.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Go to www.coupleshealing.org for free access now.
In the course you'll learn some of my top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jan 11, 2024
Thursday Jan 11, 2024
Have you ever had a good day with your spouse, then out of nowhere, you get hit with a wave of deep sadness.
Then you share the sadness and the conversation spirals and he doesn’t say much in response.
If you’re a husband, have you ever been faced with that situation and wanted to help her but had no idea how?
Did you feel discouraged because you thought you were in a better spot and had made progress, only to feel like you were back to square one?
This is a very common scenario for couples, and it's so easy to get stuck here.
However, this is an absolutely crucial moment to have these conversations go well so you can actually move forward and create closure instead of feeling derailed by the sadness or the impact of the past.
In this episode, I share with you the specific ways that you and your spouse can handle these conversations and feelings when they come up without them causing a spiral or a fight.
For therapy with Sam:
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with Sam
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.