Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

147: Tools to Help Your Relationship Progress If She Brings Up Her Pain

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     Today’s Episode:

Have you ever had the experience where things feel relatively calm between you and your spouse?

And you think things are going well, then out of nowhere she brings up her pain from the past, and her husband is completely caught off guard.

Just the mirror mention of the past that she is still hurting seems to cause things to spiral or him to shut down because of discouragement.

It’s a reminder that things aren't back to normal yet and that there are still issues that haven’t been resolved.

In today's episode I want to share with you how you can navigate these moments and a new way to look at this situation to give you some encouragement and hope that you guys can get through this.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:

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Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

146: Success Story: Braden Shares the 5 Specific Things That Changed His Life and Helped Him Quit Pornography

Have you ever felt so hopeless and discouraged as you've tried to quit pornography that you thought that there's no way out?

Despite how hard you've tried, you just haven't been able to get this problem out of your life.

This is how Braden felt before we started to work together.

He tried everything he possibly could, but it still didn't work.

After discovering there is a new way he could approach quitting pornography, it gave him hope to try one more time.

In this conversation, Braden outlines the five specific things that helped him the most.

He shares how different his life is now that he's actually been successful at eliminating pornography.

His personal life and marriage are flourishing, and he feels so much excitement about wanting to help others experience the same fulfillment that comes from resolving this issue.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

145: When It’s Hard to Work On Your Marriage and Forgiveness Seems Impossible to Achieve

Pornography use damages a relationship in deep and significant ways.

Trust is broken and her wall goes up.

The idea of forgiveness can feel impossible to offer, and a husband feels despair wondering if they’ll ever move on from the past and find closure.

This episode I share with you how you can navigate this painful situation in a way that will feel comfortable for both of you.

While forgiveness is an important step, when and how you focus on, it makes all the difference.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

144: 5 Signs She’s Feeling Betrayal Trauma (And How You Can Address It)

When a woman discovers her husband's pornography use, her whole world gets turn upside down. 

Oftentimes she now thinks that everything was a lie. Their whole relationship was fake. They don't even know who their husband is anymore.

Given how much damage is done, many women experience what's called betrayal trauma.

In this episode I share with you the 5 indicators that a woman is experiencing betrayal trauma, then I share with you three specific things that you can do to address it together.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

143: How to Avoid Pornography If Your Spouse Leaves Town or For The Day

When a spouse is gone for the day or weekend and a man is all alone, it's a common trigger.

In this episode I share 3 specific things you can do to make sure that those periods of being alone won't cause another setback.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

142: Success Story: Todd is Free From Porn 2 Years Later (and here's how)

Change is 100% if you have the right ingredients.

In today's episode, I want to introduce to you a man who has found success, and 2 years later, he continues to to do well, have a strong marriage, and help other people in their struggles with quitting porn.

This path can I often feel discouraging and depressing because most men experience countless failures and setbacks along the way.

The common thread is that men just don't know what to do to eliminate their problem, despite putting in effort and being desperate for change.

Check out this episode to see the specific things that helped Todd restore his relationship and conquer his problem.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

141: Why a Husband Avoids Initiating Conversations and How to Resolve It

Initiating conversations can be very difficult for a husband to do.

If his wife is in a good mood, he doesn’t want to bring up the pain all over again.

If she's in a bad mood, he doesn't want to cause a fight or make things worse.

Thus, he avoids the conversations with her and she ends up feeling unseen, unloved, and all alone.

In this episode, I share with you specific ways you can address this situation so you can have very productive conversations without fighting and create closure and connection again in the relationship.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

140: When Shame and "Self Pity" Dissolves Connection and Breaks Down the Conversation

How do the conversations go when you talk about her pain?

Do they end with you feeling closer or further apart? Do you feel hopeless and inadequate, not knowing what to say to help her feel comforted?

For a wife, not getting the understanding and validation she needs creates hurt and anger, and the conversations just stall out leaving them both alone.

In this episode I share with you one of the main reasons why that happens and 2 things you can implement to change that dynamic.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

139: When a Wife Brings Up Her Husband's Lack of Follow Through

Have you ever gotten into an argument with your spouse where you're talking about specific actions that he's committed to do but then doesn't follow through?

For a wife, it can feel really frustrating if there’s a lack of follow through because she often receives that as him not being committed or caring enough.

For a husband, it can be frustrating because if he’s working on things but then feels picked apart and like his efforts aren’t enough This leads to shutting down and distance.

So in today’s episode I want to share with you how are you can both navigate this together in a way that doesn't divide you but can help you find closer and confidence that you’re healing together.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

138: The Top 3 Ways to Kill Your Chances of Having a Strong Marriage

"We've been spinning our wheels for 9 months... I'm in a worst place now than the day I discovered everything."

A couple reached out to me a few hours before recording this episode. They were both discouraged and frustrated add the slow pace of the process of healing.

No matter what they did, she just felt stuck and like she couldn't move forward because some key things in their approach were missing.

In this episode I share with you the top 3 things that can cause significant damage in a relationship and prevent it from healing.

I want to share these things with you and exactly how you can reverse them so you can make progress and move forward with closure.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.