Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

185: She Thinks If She Was Enough, He Wouldn’t Have Watched Pornography (you need to hear this)

Not Being "Enough": Healing After Sexual Betrayal

When a wife discovers her husband's porn use or infidelity, one thought cuts deeper than all others: "I wasn't enough."

The pain of betrayal is devastating on its own, but believing it happened because of personal inadequacy makes healing feel impossible.

This mistaken belief - that his actions prove something about her worth - becomes the biggest barrier to healing and repair.

It's not just about what happened, it's also about what it means about her.

Today, I'll share a story that could be almost any couple I've worked with as a therapist.

You'll learn specific steps that have helped others move past this crushing belief (and others) and rebuild their connection.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

 

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

184: Rob's Success Story: How He Went From Almost Divorced to No More Triggers and Urges

Have you ever felt trapped in a cycle that seemed impossible to break? For Rob, porn became more than just a habit – it was an escape hatch from feelings of failure and not being good enough.

Like many of us, he saw himself as a ticking time bomb, always counting down to the next slip.

But this isn't a story about being stuck. It's about finding a way forward when you think there isn't one.

Today, Rob shares how he transformed his life by facing the root cause of his struggles – not the behavior itself, but the deep-seated feelings of unworthiness beneath it.

Through learning to be present with his family and developing new tools for handling difficult emotions, he didn't just survive – he rebuilt his marriage and discovered a strength he never knew he had.

In this episode, you'll learn practical strategies for:

• Separating yourself from negative thought patterns
• Building genuine presence with loved ones
• Converting shame into motivation for change
• Rebuilding trust in relationships

You'll learn specific steps you can take when the pain feels overwhelming, what conversations actually help both partners heal, and what to expect as you work on fixing things together.

There is hope and there are tools that work - even when it doesn't feel that way right now.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

183: Fundamental Steps to Repairing Your Marriage After Discovering Pornography Use

When Pornography Breaks Your Marriage: First Steps to Healing

Finding out about a porn addiction feels like your world has shattered.

One moment everything seems fine, the next your marriage hits a brick wall. Trust breaks, security vanishes, and many wives feel completely lost, wondering if healing is even possible.

If you're in this dark place right now - whether you just found out or you're taking those first shaky steps toward repair - this episode is for you.

Today, I'll share specific actions you can take to start rebuilding your marriage. These aren't just theories - they're practical steps that have helped real couples find their way back to trust and security.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

 

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

182: Is Porn Addiction Just Part of Who I Am? Do This and It Won’t Be

Breaking the "Try Harder" Trap: A New Approach to Quitting Porn

Maybe you've said to yourself, "This time will be different."

You delete the apps, block the websites, stay busy - maybe even make it a few weeks.

Then the urges hit harder than ever, and you're back at square one. This cycle crushes both you and your partner.

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

181: When Repair Conversations Fail: He Gets Defensive, Sounds Robotic, and is Unemotional

When Healing Conversations Go Wrong –

When pornography damages a relationship, couples need to talk about the pain to heal.

But these conversations often hit a wall: he gets defensive, sounds like a robot, or just shuts down.

This leaves her feeling even more alone and wondering if she should have stayed quiet.

The cycle is painful: she shares her hurt, he responds without emotion, and both end up feeling worse than before.

Many couples start dreading these talks entirely, worried they'll just create more damage.

Today, I'll reveal why these conversations break down and how to fix them.

You'll learn four key reasons repair talks fail, plus practical ways to solve each problem.

Whether you're triggered, hurting, or just want to connect better, these strategies will help you have the meaningful conversations your relationship needs to heal.

Let's turn these dreaded talks into moments that actually bring you closer.

 

As a therapist who's helped hundreds of men through this struggle, I can tell you something important:

Quitting porn isn't about willpower. Most men get stuck because they're taking the wrong approach - trying to force themselves to stop or just avoid triggers.

Today, I'll share three key elements that actually work.

No more guessing, no more endless cycles of trying and failing. Instead, you'll get a clear, practical plan that addresses the real reasons you're stuck.

 

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and resolve the root cause so it doesn't come back.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully overcome it, I’ll work with you for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

180 Success Story: Tyler's New Approach to Ending His Porn Use In Just A Few Months Without Anxiety and Self-Punishment

A Story of Freedom: From 20-Year Struggle to Success

Meet Tyler, a man who fought pornography addiction for over two decades.

Like many, he worried this struggle would be permanent, especially after so many failed attempts to quit.

But today, his story is different.

What changed? Instead of just trying to avoid temptation, Tyler learned specific skills to handle triggers.

In today's episode, he shares exactly how he turned things around - from the questions he asks himself in tough moments to the precise steps he takes to choose a different path.

And for a wife listening: Tyler's marriage isn't just surviving - it's thriving.

Even after major setbacks, he and his wife built something stronger. Their story shows that real change is possible.

Listen to Tyler share his experience so you can implement the practical tools that he outlines so you can see success in your relationship and personally as well.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

support@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet

The 90-Day Freedom Trap: A Critical Warning

If you've been trying to quit pornography but can't stay free for more than 90 days, there's a crucial mistake you need to know about.

As a therapist, I see this same issue holding back almost every man who comes to me for help.

And wives, this matters for you too - it will help you understand whether your husband is taking the right steps to create real safety in your relationship.

So what's the problem? It's not about trying harder.

Many men put in tremendous effort, make progress for a few weeks or months, start feeling hopeful - then suddenly fall right back into old patterns.

The real issue is that their approach is incomplete.

Think of it like a gum ball machine: you need both the quarter AND the twist to get results.

Similarly, lasting freedom requires changes in two key areas: behavioral AND emotional. When men focus on just one, that's when the cycle keeps repeating.

Today, let's break down how to address both sides of this challenge.

 

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

support@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

178: 3 Safety Indicators When It’s Hard For Her to Believe He’s Telling the Truth

Trust Once Broken: How She Can Know He's Really Changed?

When pornography breaks trust in a relationship, it creates a painful pattern.

He promises he's done, but then more truth comes out months later.

After this happens multiple times, many wives ask the same haunting question: "How do I know he's not just getting better at hiding it?"

This situation hurts everyone.

She feels like she's going crazy, constantly wondering what's real.

And if he's truly working to change, it can feel hopeless when she can't believe him anymore.

Today, I'll share three clear signs that show real change is happening.

These aren't just promises or words - they're specific actions and behaviors that both partners can watch for.

Understanding these signs can help you move from doubt to healing, and finally find your way forward together.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

support@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

177: 5 Mistakes to Avoid if You Want to Quit Pornography in 2025

Think about what pornography takes from your life - it's like a heavy fog that clouds everything. It steals your focus, drains your confidence, fills you with shame, and keeps you from being truly present with the people you love. It affects your work, your relationships, and your spirit.

Now imagine the opposite: complete peace of mind. No more guilt. No more fear of being discovered. Being fully present with your family. A marriage built on trust and joy. Feeling confident and in control of your life again.

If there was a magic wand that could give you all of this back, you'd do anything to get it, right?

While obviously there isn't a wand, there IS a clear path to freedom. Real people have walked this path before you, and you can too.

In today's episode, I'll share the five biggest mistakes that keep people stuck in this cycle. More importantly, I'll show you how to avoid these mistakes and build a ladder out of this pit.

 

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

support@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.

 

176: Why Quitting Pornography Has Felt Hard (and 3 practical strategies that make it much easier)

Imagine being stuck in a cycle that seems impossible to break: trying to quit pornography, doing well for a while, slipping up, hurting your partner, and starting all over again.

This pattern can go on for years, leaving both people feeling hopeless and exhausted.

Many think this cycle is just part of recovery - like climbing a mountain over and over, always sliding back down.

But what if there was a better way?

What if, instead of this endless climb, you could find a tunnel straight through the mountain?

In today's episode, I'll share three key reasons why breaking free feels so impossible - and more importantly, three practical steps to make this journey not just manageable, but actually hopeful.

Whether you've struggled for months or decades, these strategies can help you find real freedom, rebuild trust, and develop habits that make you stronger.

Get ready to discover a clearer path to lasting change.

For therapy with Sam:

I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.

If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

Click here for info to work with me directly.

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

support@healingcouples.org

 

Get access to my trust building workshop:

Rebuild Trust Workshop

 

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

 

Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.