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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Many men and women wonder if quitting porn is actually possible to do or if it's something that just needs to be managed for the rest of their life.
The good news: YES! It's 100% possible to quit and never return.
In this episode I'll share with you specifically what I've seen work best to help men quit Porn and never return.
The more you have about what the underlying problem is, the more the solution becomes obvious.
Once you implement those solutions, the old patterns lose their power, which gives husbands confidence that they can move forward without messing up again, and it gives a wife peace of mind knowing she can actually be safe and let her guard down when he's done the work.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
One very difficult hurdle that many women struggle, with is the idea of forgiveness or staying in the relationship with someone who hurt them so much.
If she forgives him, does that mean he's getting away with everything?
Does it make her feel like she has no dignity left if she stays in the relationship? That she just accepts behavior she completely stands against?
In this episode, I share with you a different way to look at the situation to help you feel more comfortable staying in the relationship without feeling like he's getting away with it.
I also share how a husband can help facilitate closure and healing in the relationship when she’s struggling in this phase of the journey.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 25, 2024
Thursday Jul 25, 2024
Rebuilding sexual intimacy after damage by pornography can be a challenge for many couples.
A wife often has fears and concerns like:
- How do I know he's not fantasizing when we're intimate?
- What if he's just using me and I'm being manipulated?
- I feel inadequate and not attractive enough
A husband often wants to know how to help his wife through her triggers and how to restore their intimacy together.
In this episode, I meet with a couple live and help them work through these blocks and know what tools to implement to repair their physical intimacy and develop a deeper connection together.
If you like this style of episode, please send me an email and let me know! I'll be doing a few more of these to see if it helps you as a listener. If it does, I'll do more. If it doesn't, then I won't!
You can send your feedback to sam@healingcouples.org
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 18, 2024
Thursday Jul 18, 2024
Going out into public can create a lot of anxiety for both a husband and wife.
She's worried about who he's looking at and what he's thinking about, and he's worried about her getting triggered and feels anxious not knowing what to do or how to help her.
In this episode, I share with a few specific things that you can do to address this issue to help build security in your relationship.
If objectification has been a problem, I also share tools to help you break those patterns and overcome the behavior altogether.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 11, 2024
Thursday Jul 11, 2024
If you had to get to the other side of a mountain, would you rather take a tunnel through it or climb all the way up and around it?
It still takes effort and intention to get to the other side, but one path is far more streamlined.
In this episode I share with you 3 things that can help take you through the tunnel when it comes to repairing your relationship.
There isn't a one size fits all approach when it comes to restoring your marriage and overcoming pornography, but there are principles that the most successful people focus on in order to get the results they want.
In today's episode, I share with you 3 of them that can make a huge difference for you and your progress.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to http://stopporn.info/ for more information about working with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 04, 2024
Thursday Jul 04, 2024
When pornography use is discovered in a relationship, there is often a lot of grief and hurt that surfaces.
Shock about how this could have happened. Feeling stuck in pain not knowing how to make sense of it.
And grief about what the relationship once was and uncertain about how to move forward.
In this episode I share a few specific ways to approach grief, sadness, and hurt that enables healing and closure from the past.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
Thursday Jun 27, 2024
After pornography use, a husband becomes a source of pain as well as a source of comfort for his wife. this can be such a confusing place for both people to be.
Sometimes she doesn't want to be around him at all, but other times she needs him close and for him to provide reassurance.
As a man, oftentimes he doesn't know what to say or how to help so he ends up giving space when really what she needs is his support.
In this episode, I share with you specific things that you can do in order to turn the relationship into a place where is felt.
I also share tools for a husband to know how to navigate the ups and downs of conversations and how to support her in the moments she needs it most.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jun 20, 2024
Thursday Jun 20, 2024
Understanding and resolving the underlying issues that lead pornography use is essential.
Without addressing the root cause, you're bound to continue to struggle with triggers and temptations.
Announcement!!!
Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it
So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship.
There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path.
If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted:
Today’s Episode:
Sometimes it can feel really difficult to identify the underlying issues that lead to pornography use.
Is it from childhood? Is it something that developed afterwards? Is it just a habit? Why does it keep happening? And how to I fix it?
The key is to start by identifying and resolving the underlying issues that lead to this behavior.
Addressing things on a deeper level is also important for a wife because she won't be able to fully trust without knowing he's dealt with why the pornography use has happened in the first place.
In this episode, I want to share with you a very clear way to identify what issues are still unresolved so you can work through them directly.
Once you do, the triggers and temptations will naturally dissipate, which enables you to feel freedom and peace instead of having to keep your guard up.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Thursday Jun 13, 2024
Announcement!!!
Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it
So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship.
There are 2 ways to access the training - it's on my website for $97 or you can access it for free by joining my free online community where I'll be doing live monthly workshops, live Q&A sessions, and offering support to members who need guidance and help on this path.
If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here and you'll get the link to the free online community where the workshop will be hosted:
Today’s Episode:
Trust is a foundation of a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Pornography use shatters trust and feelings of security, which leaves couples in a state of fear and self protection.
In this episode, I want to share with you the five indicators that trust has been significantly damaged and four things that you can do to repair it.
After having worked with hundreds of couples, I know that rebuilding trust is possible with the right direction.
So tune in to today’s episode to discover how you can apply the right tools to help you find closure from the damage and move forward with security.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Jun 06, 2024
Thursday Jun 06, 2024
Announcement!!!
Trust is a critical part of rebuilding your relationship after pornography use has damaged it.
So, I decided to do a special trust building workshop, where for 90 minutes I’ll be doing a deep dive and sharing with you specific steps you can take, tools you can implement, and practical ways that you can rebuild trust in your relationship. Before I offer the workshop for sale, I’m doing the live version of it for free.
If that sounds interesting, you can join by registering here:
Today’s Episode:
Have you ever had the experience where things feel relatively calm between you and your spouse?
And you think things are going well, then out of nowhere she brings up her pain from the past, and her husband is completely caught off guard.
Just the mirror mention of the past that she is still hurting seems to cause things to spiral or him to shut down because of discouragement.
It’s a reminder that things aren't back to normal yet and that there are still issues that haven’t been resolved.
In today's episode I want to share with you how you can navigate these moments and a new way to look at this situation to give you some encouragement and hope that you guys can get through this.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Go to stopporn.info for more information about working with me directly.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support. It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.