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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Thursday Sep 19, 2024
Thursday Sep 19, 2024
It's very discouraging for both a husband and wife when a man gets stuck in the cycle of falling back into pornography. Use every few weeks or months.
In this situation, a wife feels continual anxiety, just waiting for the other shoe to drop.
A husband feels discouragement and hopelessness feeling like he's not making progress despite his best efforts.
In this episode, I share with you exactly how to break this cycle for good and how you can create safety in your relationship, knowing that the root of the problem is resolved and the pornography use is eliminated.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Sep 12, 2024
Thursday Sep 12, 2024
When pornography use is discovered in a relationship it undermines the very foundation and security.
It often creates suspicion, fear, uncertainty, and a total lack of security and connection.
After having worked with hundreds and hundreds of couples, I want to share with you the three of pillars that I've seen help create connection and security, faster than anything else.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Sep 05, 2024
Thursday Sep 05, 2024
One of the biggest fears that women have in this process is that her husband will return to pornography since she won't know about it.
She’ll bring down her wall, start to trust him again, and then the other shoe will drop and she'll be devastated again.
How can she know if he is still stuck in his pattern?
If there’s been dishonesty in the past, how can she know if he is telling the truth or not now?
It's critical for a husband to demonstrate change in a way that helps her to believe him again.
It's very discouraging for him when he really is trying and is making progress, but no matter what he does he feels down when she doesn’t believe him.
In this episode I'll share how you can approach this together to help build security and confidence that things really are different as a result of the new actions he's taking.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Aug 29, 2024
Thursday Aug 29, 2024
Have you ever wondered why you haven't been able to quit pornography permanently?
Do you feel like you know the tools but just aren't using them in the moment you need them most?
If the tools you've been trying to implement haven't brought you freedom yet, you're using the wrong ones.
This creates a problem in a relationship as well –
A woman can't trust her husband who keeps returning back to pornography, even if he is trying his best.
There's nothing wrong with you, it's just the approach that you've been taught isn't working.
In this episode, I share with you how you can identify what tools you need to be using instead and how you can change your approach to really get traction and find success.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Thursday Aug 22, 2024
Many couples fear that it's not possible to eliminate pornography use from their lives. Men struggle for decades with urges and temptation without the right tools.
This leads them to fall back into old patterns and makes them believe they can't ever quit.
Kevin was a man who went through my program and not only got the tools to quit pornography for good, he lost the desire to view it at all.
No more temptation. No more urges. This is what freedom looks like.
In today's episode, he shares with you the steps he took and how he approached things in order for him to find this freedom.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Thursday Aug 15, 2024
Many couples struggle with feelings of uncertainty and insecurity in their marriage.
Years of deception and lying erodes the foundation of trust, and a lack of communication or transparency keep things stuck.
In this episode episode, I share a very easy-to-implement tool that can help you to build security in your marriage again. But missing this can keep your wheels spinning in your marriage despite making progress on a personal level.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
To get more tools to help you resolve communication breakdowns, check out these previous episodes:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2QMGxl99muUDOoojYPOUnX?si=5Tl5gg4tQgmLG6QAynIsdQ
https://open.spotify.com/episode/5IJ812sUVt3x0CKj7Juj8R?si=2d18kEQ3Rm2c_G4kubBQ3g
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Thursday Aug 08, 2024
Many men and women wonder if quitting porn is actually possible to do or if it's something that just needs to be managed for the rest of their life.
The good news: YES! It's 100% possible to quit and never return.
In this episode I'll share with you specifically what I've seen work best to help men quit Porn and never return.
The more you have about what the underlying problem is, the more the solution becomes obvious.
Once you implement those solutions, the old patterns lose their power, which gives husbands confidence that they can move forward without messing up again, and it gives a wife peace of mind knowing she can actually be safe and let her guard down when he's done the work.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
Thursday Aug 01, 2024
One very difficult hurdle that many women struggle, with is the idea of forgiveness or staying in the relationship with someone who hurt them so much.
If she forgives him, does that mean he's getting away with everything?
Does it make her feel like she has no dignity left if she stays in the relationship? That she just accepts behavior she completely stands against?
In this episode, I share with you a different way to look at the situation to help you feel more comfortable staying in the relationship without feeling like he's getting away with it.
I also share how a husband can help facilitate closure and healing in the relationship when she’s struggling in this phase of the journey.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 25, 2024
Thursday Jul 25, 2024
Rebuilding sexual intimacy after damage by pornography can be a challenge for many couples.
A wife often has fears and concerns like:
- How do I know he's not fantasizing when we're intimate?
- What if he's just using me and I'm being manipulated?
- I feel inadequate and not attractive enough
A husband often wants to know how to help his wife through her triggers and how to restore their intimacy together.
In this episode, I meet with a couple live and help them work through these blocks and know what tools to implement to repair their physical intimacy and develop a deeper connection together.
If you like this style of episode, please send me an email and let me know! I'll be doing a few more of these to see if it helps you as a listener. If it does, I'll do more. If it doesn't, then I won't!
You can send your feedback to sam@healingcouples.org
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.
Thursday Jul 18, 2024
Thursday Jul 18, 2024
Going out into public can create a lot of anxiety for both a husband and wife.
She's worried about who he's looking at and what he's thinking about, and he's worried about her getting triggered and feels anxious not knowing what to do or how to help her.
In this episode, I share with a few specific things that you can do to address this issue to help build security in your relationship.
If objectification has been a problem, I also share tools to help you break those patterns and overcome the behavior altogether.
For therapy with Sam:
I will work with you for 12 weeks to help you eliminate pornography use and the root cause that started it.
If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.
Click here for info to work with me directly.
Join the free, private men’s community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support.
It's even better because it's not on Facebook anymore, it's on a much better platform that will facilitate a lot more support and help for men:
Get access to my trust building workshop:
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Click the Couples Healing website and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Follow Me on Instagram for daily tips and tools you can implement to overcome pornography addiction.