Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

The Key to Overcome Pornography Addiction Without 12-Step, Accountability Partners, or Filters on Devices

Traditional pornography addiction recovery typically takes 3-5 years, according to established therapists in the industry. The problem is that most people don’t want to spend that long fighting such an exhausting battle.

The problem with the traditional way of overcoming porn addiction is that it’s centered on managing the symptoms instead of resolving the core issue. Things like group attendance, accountability, filters, using willpower to fight urges, all of these old methods are ineffective and eliminating the root of addiction.

In this episode I share with you the most important thing you need to address if you truly want to find freedom from pornography addiction once and for all. Once you address the root problem and resolve it, freedom from addiction can take less than 90 days.

And I define freedom as it no longer be a part of your life, you don’t think about, you don’t have to fight against urges or temptations, you just feel normal and can live your life without feeling afraid of it returning or constantly being on the lookout for triggers that you should avoid.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

The Traditional Way of Seeing Addiction Can Harm You – Try This Instead

In the traditional way of overcoming addiction and restoring a marriage, the husbands is often seen as the bad guy. The message is that he is the problem, there’s something wrong with him, he’s in a one-down position and is less-than.

When he gets that message, he often feels discouraged, not good enough, and always in the hole, never able to heal and move forward. His wife often feels disconnected from him, very unsafe, and unable to bring her wall down.

There’s a much more empowering and effective way to see pornography addiction recovery, healing trauma, and restoring the marriage.

In this episode I share with you some specific examples that can help you see and experience interactions with your spouse differently, which can help you to move forward and beyond the pain instead of feeling manipulated, not good enough, and unloved.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
 

Struggling With Self-Worth? Here Are Some Powerful Tools to Help

So many people struggle with feeling low self-worth and the depression / anxiety that accompanies it. 

In this episode I share some powerful strategies to help you increase your self-worth and how to experience feeling more love for yourself. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

The Best Response to Increase Connection and Safety When She‘s Triggered

So many women I work tell me that almost everything can be a trigger – the movies, tv shows, going out to eat, women in the grocery story, billboards, you name it. 

It’s overwhelming to constantly feel on guard and anxious because any of these triggers sends her into fear and uncertainty, and sadly, so often their husbands don’t know how to respond to help her.

In this episode I share one of the most common triggers that women experience and exactly how to diffuse it, and how her husband can help in the process.

The more involved he is, not only does it help her work through the triggers faster, but it strengthens her trust in him and increases the safety and connection they both feel.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Everything is Always My Fault

When people are working through the process of overcoming pornography addiction, healing from betrayal trauma, and restoring their marriage, there are obviously ups and downs.

It’s easy for couple to fall back into old patterns of arguments and fighting, lack of trust, and issues with their sexual relationship, so in this episode I shared the strategy and approach to addressing these three common situations that are barriers to creating a fulfilling relationship. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
 

How to Quickly Diffuse a Fight Before It Even Begins

When working to repair your relationship after the effects of porn addiction, learning how to stop fights and diffuse them is critical. The more couples fight, the more alone and disconnected they feel, and if you don’t know how to effectively come back together, the relationship continues to suffer.

In this episode I share exactly how to diffuse a fight (every time) and prevent things from escalating. Learning this one skill will help you not only have a strong relationship together, but will open the door to resolving each of the problems that you experience in your marriage and work through them effectively.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

If You Can‘t Deeply Feel God‘s or Your Spouse‘s Love, Here‘s What Helped Me

I was a teenager and had a hard time feeling love - from family, friends, and from God. I believed they loved me, I knew intellectually they did, but I had a hard time feeling it.

For many people I work with who are affected by a pornography addiction, they have a hard time feeling and experiencing love because they don't feel worthy, have low self-esteem, or have a hard time feeling in general.

In this episode, I share exactly how to increase your ability to feel love so you can more fully feel satisfaction and fulfillment as a result of deeper connection with God and your loved ones.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
 

Consider This Before You Begin or End a Separation

Many couples get the advice (or consider for themselves) that they should separate for a number of reasons..

Maybe there is too much hurt, betrayal, dishonesty, or fighting?

But separation can have unintended harmful effects on an individual and a marriage, so in this episode I share the most important considerations before you decide about how to approach a separation.

How to Instantly Reduce The Rate of Slip Ups in Porn Addiction Recovery

As men are learning how to quit porn, one of the most helpful things in their process is their ability to avoid slips. It's such a discouraging experience for both people when he ends up slipping back into old patterns. It affects the trust she has in him, it affects his confidence, and it feels like a big disappointment overall.

In this episode I share with you my proven framework to instantly reduce the rate of slip ups. I also share how this framework applies to any other goal that someone wants to achieve, whether it's to become a better parent, progress spiritually, heal the pain of betrayal, and anything else someone is striving to accomplish. Pornography addiction can be overcome by getting the tools necessary to resolve it, and in this episode I share 2 effective strategies that will help.

 

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How to Get Over the Past Without Sweeping It Under the Rug

If the past continues to be brought up, it means that it's not fully resolved.

Unless you address the hurt in the proper way, it's likely to continue to fester and resurface.

In this episode, I share the specific framework to help couples resolve hurts so they can leave the past behind them without sweeping it under the rug.

As men are learning how to stop watching porn, healing the damage from the past is a critical step in the progress of the marriage and being able to move forward with closure.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.