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Break free from pornography and rebuild the trust in your relationship. Hosted by licensed marriage therapist Sam Tielemans, Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction is your go-to podcast for overcoming porn addiction, restoring emotional and sexual intimacy, and healing after betrayal trauma in your marriage. Each episode offers practical tools, relationship advice, and real stories of men and couples navigating the path of porn recovery and restoring your marriage. Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or want to go deeper in quitting pornography and rebuilding your relationship, this podcast gives you the clarity, hope, and next steps you need. Topics include: How to overcome porn urges and triggers without relying on willpower Rebuilding trust after betrayal in your marriage Restoring emotional connection and sexual closeness Understanding the root causes of porn use Navigating communication breakdowns, shame, fear, and disconnection New episodes every week. Subscribe now and start your healing journey toward lasting freedom and relationship renewal.
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Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
“I’ll just quit tomorrow.”
“It’s not that big of a deal if I look at Instagram for a bit.”
“I won’t look at full-blown pornography, just a few pictures.”
These are the kinds of statements that indicate a man has been triggered into his acting out pattern in pornography addiction, and unless he intervenes and breaks that pattern, it’ll be impossible for him to find the freedom he truly wants at his core.
In this episode I share the predictable pattern that men get stuck in and how some specific strategies they can implement to exit the cycle and overcome it for good.
When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, , .
It's easy for men to get stuck feeling shame and want to avoid these difficult conversations, but in this episode I share with you
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Apr 13, 2023
Thursday Apr 13, 2023
When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, it causes a lot of damage and pain. One of the most important things in the healing process is having compassion and empathy for a wife who has been impacted, but unfortunately having conversations where there is compassion and empathy can be difficult.
It's easy for men to get stuck feeling shame and want to avoid these difficult conversations, but in this episode I share with you 2 specific ways you can approach hard conversations to allow compassion and empathy to naturally flow.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Apr 06, 2023
Thursday Apr 06, 2023
On the path to overcoming a pornography addiction, there are often slips and relapses, and those conversations are painful to have.
There is a clear, three-step framework I teach to clients to actually make those conversations feel productive and provide some hope about moving forward together despite the recent slip.
In this episode I share with you exactly how to have that conversation, which can actually bring you closer together if it's done correctly.
If it's not done correctly, it will increase the distance, mistrust, and hurt feelings so using this framework can help you navigate this tough situation.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Sexual intimacy is often times badly damaged after discovering a pornography addiction.
There are fears, feelings of inadequacy, triggers, and painful feeling that go along with intimacy as a result of pornography use.
In this episode I'll share with you three ways you can improve your intimacy, how to handle triggers, and ways to have conversations together that actually are productive and bring some closure and reassurance.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
When overcoming a pornography addiction, many men experience feelings of unworthiness or some version of feeling not good enough, failure, bad, or defective. Very often, a wife will experience unworthiness and not feeling good enough as a result of her husband’s addiction.
Overcoming feelings of unworthiness is such a critical part of the healing process for people because these painful emotions often lead to a relapse, which fuels more feelings of unworthiness.
In this episode I deep dive into three specific strategies you can use to help change this negative belief so you can feel more confident, experience your value, feel good about yourself, and move forward without slips.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Creating boundaries in a marriage that's been affected by pornography addiction is a very common solution that offered.
I found that there are certain types of boundaries and the timing they are implemented can cause a detrimental effect on the health of a marriage unintentionally.
In this episode I share some principles to guide you as you are determining what boundaries to put in place and for how long you want them, and instead what to really be focusing on that get
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Mar 03, 2023
Friday Mar 03, 2023
When a man struggles with a pornography addiction, identifying the root cause in resolving it on that level is the most effective way to help him change and overcome the addiction.
Without knowing what’s driving the addiction, and addressing the underlying problems, all of the traditional responses or coping strategies, like exercise, journaling, mindfulness, etc. won’t help somebody heal on a deeper level.
In this episode, I share with you the exact framework I use to help people identify their root cause issues so you can listen to this and know how to find your own and take the steps necessary to resolve them. I.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Feb 24, 2023
Friday Feb 24, 2023
After there has been betrayal in a relationship due to a pornography addiction, it’s very common for a wife to experience a lot of anger and resentment.
There are 3 things that a husband can do to defuse and calm her anger in a way that helps her feel understood and comforted.
In this episode, I share with you some powerful ways to approach the situation so a husband and wife can work together towards finding a resolution and ultimately healing their marriage and rebuilding trust.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Sunday Feb 19, 2023
Sunday Feb 19, 2023
Relapses can be extremely discouraging both for the husband who is trying to overcome pornography, addiction, and for his wife.
In this episode, I share three specific things that you can do as a husband after a relapse in order to get back on track, effectively reengage in the process, and ultimately become more successful in avoiding slips in the future.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Feb 09, 2023
Thursday Feb 09, 2023
Stress is a very common triggers for men to slip back into their pornography addiction.
The problem is that stress never goes away in life.
So if you don't know how to process it differently, it's going to make it really hard to find freedom from pornography addiction if you've been using it to cope with stress.
The new science on stress can help you avoid slips by understanding it and knowing how to approach it differently.
Check out this episode where I share with you a different approach to dealing with your stress instead of deep breathing, counting to 10, or distracting yourself.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.