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The Couples Healing podcast is a resource to help husbands in their porn addiction recovery and to help couples restore the trust and connection again in their marriage. The effects of pornography addiction or sex addiction can be devastating individually and in the relationship, but with the right approach, men can learn how to stop watching porn, heal the pain it causes his wife, and rebuild trust again in the marriage. Each episode is designed to give you new insights, tools, and strategies to help you at each stage of your journey, whether you‘re just now beginning to address the pornography use, or if you‘ve been struggling for many years and still feel stuck. In the podcast, I also share ways for women to feel empowered, safe, and worthy. I also share how the couple can navigate their relationship together after it’s been impacted by pornography and the trust has been broken. Join me, Sam Tielemans, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, as I share my expertise and knowledge to help you find freedom, peace, confidence, connection, and hope.
Episodes
Friday Oct 22, 2021
Consider This Before You Begin or End a Separation
Friday Oct 22, 2021
Friday Oct 22, 2021
Many couples get the advice (or consider for themselves) that they should separate for a number of reasons..
Maybe there is too much hurt, betrayal, dishonesty, or fighting?
But separation can have unintended harmful effects on an individual and a marriage, so in this episode I share the most important considerations before you decide about how to approach a separation.
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
How to Instantly Reduce The Rate of Slip Ups in Porn Addiction Recovery
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
Thursday Oct 07, 2021
As men are learning how to quit porn, one of the most helpful things in their process is their ability to avoid slips. It's such a discouraging experience for both people when he ends up slipping back into old patterns. It affects the trust she has in him, it affects his confidence, and it feels like a big disappointment overall.
In this episode I share with you my proven framework to instantly reduce the rate of slip ups. I also share how this framework applies to any other goal that someone wants to achieve, whether it's to become a better parent, progress spiritually, heal the pain of betrayal, and anything else someone is striving to accomplish. Pornography addiction can be overcome by getting the tools necessary to resolve it, and in this episode I share 2 effective strategies that will help.
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Friday Sep 24, 2021
How to Get Over the Past Without Sweeping It Under the Rug
Friday Sep 24, 2021
Friday Sep 24, 2021
If the past continues to be brought up, it means that it's not fully resolved.
Unless you address the hurt in the proper way, it's likely to continue to fester and resurface.
In this episode, I share the specific framework to help couples resolve hurts so they can leave the past behind them without sweeping it under the rug.
As men are learning how to stop watching porn, healing the damage from the past is a critical step in the progress of the marriage and being able to move forward with closure.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Sep 10, 2021
Friday Sep 10, 2021
One of the most critical steps in porn addiction recovery is being able to identify your triggers. Without knowing exactly what's causing the addiction, you're doomed to continue to repeat the pattern over and over.
Once you can uncover the core trigger(s), you can then actually resolve them so they don't continue to pull you back towards the addiction, and that is when men experience true freedom. This ultimately helps a man overcome porn addiction for good.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Sep 03, 2021
How to Apologize and Repair to Create Closure
Friday Sep 03, 2021
Friday Sep 03, 2021
We all are going to get our feelings hurt in a relationship, and in order for a couple to thrive and reconnect, we need to repair the damage done in the right way.
In this episode I share with you the steps to apologizing in a way where the past won't continue to be brought up over and over again, and couples can move forward feeling like the incident is resolved.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Aug 26, 2021
Why People Can’t Follow Through on Breaking Bad Habits or Patterns
Thursday Aug 26, 2021
Thursday Aug 26, 2021
When people have a hard time following through on creating a good habit or breaking a bad one, there's always a reason.
In this episode, we dive deeper into the reasons why we don't do the things that we say we want to do, and I share with you some strategies to help you dissolve any blocks or barriers that have prevented you from being successful.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Aug 20, 2021
His Pornography Addiction Just Came Out... What Are The First Steps to Heal?
Friday Aug 20, 2021
Friday Aug 20, 2021
When a pornography addiction first comes out, it can be overwhelming and shocking. So many couples need a place to start and need direction about what steps to take next.
The effects of porn addiction in a relationship are far reaching and can be severe when it comes to the trust, connection, and closeness.
In this episode I share a framework and an overview with examples about what steps you can take in the beginning to start the healing process right away instead of spinning your wheels and feeling stuck.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Saturday Aug 14, 2021
Can Sex With a Spouse Trigger the Pornography Addiction?
Saturday Aug 14, 2021
Saturday Aug 14, 2021
When it comes to bringing sex back into the relationship, one of the main questions that people have is “will that trigger him back into the addiction?” If men struggle with a porn addiction or a sex addiction, it can be difficult for a wife to feel comfortable with intimacy.
There are a lot of fears and reservations when it comes to sexual intimacy because of the damage that is done in that area of the relationship by the addiction.
In this episode I share how are you can know when the time is right to bring back sex, how you can gauge the timing, and what to do if triggers arise.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Friday Aug 06, 2021
2 Key Indicators It’s Safe to Trust Again
Friday Aug 06, 2021
Friday Aug 06, 2021
When trust is damaged because of pornography addiction or lying, it's hard to know when it's safe to open up and trust again.
Knowing what to look for will help you to measure whether or not there's progress being made, and it helps him to know where to spend his energy in the rebuilding phase and gaining her trust back.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Saturday Jul 31, 2021
What If I Am Falling Out of Love With My Spouse?
Saturday Jul 31, 2021
Saturday Jul 31, 2021
Sometimes people start to lose the love they have for their spouse, especially as pornography addiction and betrayal trauma negatively affect the relationship.
The good news is that if you know how to create, shape, and reignite love, you can rekindle it regardless of how long you've been together and even if you've gone through lots of rough patches.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.