Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

The #1 Factor Between Healthy and Unhealthy Couples

Announcement! I created a free, private Facebook group for men who want to find freedom from pornography and have a strong marriage.

Each week, I host a live training on topics like how to effectively overcome temptations and triggers, relapse prevention, finding relief from guilt and shame, reclaiming your self worth, rebuilding trust and connection in your marriage, and how to avoid fights and relationship problems (without needing 12-step, filters on your electronics, therapy for years, and willpower).

You can join the free Facebook group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

In this episode, renowned researcher and author, John Gottman, revealed the number one indicator that determines whether a couple is healthy or not.

We'll be exploring how couples can use this factor to build a strong foundation for their relationship and learn how to keep their connection thriving. Tune in to find out what this key factor is and how you can use it to strengthen your relationship.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?


Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

ANNOUNCEMENT FOR THE MEN (sorry ladies)

You can join the free Facebook group here:

https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit

 

Instead of Guilt and Shame to Avoid Slips, Do This Instead

When a man struggles with the pornography addiction, it’s very easy for him to spiral into shame and guilt, which unintentionally can set him back up for another relapse.

In this episode, I share with you some very important research about how much more effective response to mistakes or slips to help propel you forward on the path of being successful.

Self-compassion is often confused with self-licensing, and in the episode, I talk about how a husband can respond to himself in a compassionate way, which reinforces his commitment to overcoming his addiction. 

I also share how a wife can respond without giving him license to continue to fall back into the same patterns. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

How She Can Feel More Comfortable Bringing Her Wall Down

It can be very difficult for a woman to bring her wall down and decide to trust her husband again after there’s been damage due to a pornography addiction or infidelity.

One of the scariest things for her is the possibility of getting hurt again by her husband if he relapses, so it’s easy to keep the guard up. The problem is that the more protected she is behind the wall, progress in the relationship can be negatively impacted. 

In this episode, I talk about ways to more comfortably bring the wall down, and how to navigate the fear of getting hurt again.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship. 

When Conversations Break Down Because She Doesn’t Believe Him

When there’s a lack of trust in the relationship due to a pornography addiction, it can be hard for a wife to believe what her husband is saying.

So often, there is an impasse in the conversations they have where she feels stuck and he’s not able to move forward because she doesn’t believe him.

In this episode I share with you a framework they can help you navigate those tough conversations and difficult moments in order to move forward together and better understand each other.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Key Advice For Breaking Free From Self Criticism and Judgement

Most men who are struggling with pornography addiction are really hard on themselves – they see themselves as bad people, unworthy, broken, or failures.

The more somebody is self critical, the more it sets them up to fall right back into the addiction as a way to cope from the pain.

This episode reveals one of the most powerful tools to help change how you see yourself, and stop the self shaming that, contributes to depression, anxiety, and other painful emotions.

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

What Does a Neuroscientist Report about Pornography and the Brain? (No Judgement)

Does pornography affect the brain neurochemistry? They are finally starting to come out with studies and do research on the impact of pornography has on the brain, and their findings are so important so people can better understand the effects it has. 

Dr. Andrew Huberman, a neuroscientist and professor at Stanford, shared some important findings in some recent interviews, and in this episode of the podcast, I share with you, some of the takeaways, and how you can apply the latest neuroscience to help you overcome addiction and heal your relationship. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

Would He Have Ever Changed If He Didn’t Get Caught?

So often a wife will wonder if her husband would have ever changed and stopped watching pornography if she didn’t catch him. Most of the time the husband starts taking real action after he’s found out, which can be frustrating and hurtful for a wife.

In this episode, I answer the question about whether or not, he would have changed and give you some tools to know how to approach the situation in a way that he actually can change so that you can avoid repeated disclosures and discoveries about the same pattern.  

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
 

 

Tools to Handle It When Triggers to Act Out Won’t Leave

Triggers and urges for pornography can be completely overwhelming for husbands who are on this journey. There is often a real struggle when the thought to act out surfaces, despite their desire to avoid temptation and relapse. 

It’s almost like something outside of them is trying to pull them back into old patterns, and one of the main tools that husbands often use to overcome these triggers, and Temptations is just by trying to willpower their way through, but ultimately will power is a muscle that fatigues and they end up returning to the addiction, despite the best efforts in avoiding it.

In this episode, I will share with you too specific tools that you can use in moments of temptation when you get triggered to avoid falling and to ultimately help resolve the reason why it’s happening in the first place. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.

When He Can’t Answer Her Question ‘Why Did You Do This?’

When there has been betrayal due to a pornography addiction, a woman will often ask her husband why he did, how he could have hurt her like that, why didn’t he consider her or the family, etc.

There’s one main reason why oftentimes these discussions lead to frustration, defensiveness, and disconnection, and without addressing it the conversations will continue to go nowhere and leave you feeling hopeless and loss.

In this episode I discuss how to navigate that conversation in a way that brings closure and understanding so that you can move forward feeling better about the situation and confident that things can be different. 

For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org

Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?

Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.