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Break free from pornography and rebuild the trust in your relationship. Hosted by licensed marriage therapist Sam Tielemans, Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction is your go-to podcast for overcoming porn addiction, restoring emotional and sexual intimacy, and healing after betrayal trauma in your marriage. Each episode offers practical tools, relationship advice, and real stories of men and couples navigating the path of porn recovery and restoring your marriage. Whether you’re just starting your healing journey or want to go deeper in quitting pornography and rebuilding your relationship, this podcast gives you the clarity, hope, and next steps you need. Topics include: How to overcome porn urges and triggers without relying on willpower Rebuilding trust after betrayal in your marriage Restoring emotional connection and sexual closeness Understanding the root causes of porn use Navigating communication breakdowns, shame, fear, and disconnection New episodes every week. Subscribe now and start your healing journey toward lasting freedom and relationship renewal.
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Thursday May 18, 2023
Thursday May 18, 2023
Do you ever feel trapped in the same addiction cycle, struggling for years without making any progress?
You're not alone. But there's one secret that can help you break free and heal for good: self-compassion.
Many people believe that being hard on themselves will make them do better, but research shows that self-compassion is the key to overcoming addiction.
In this episode, we'll share the story of a client who felt trapped in a vicious cycle of shame and self-loathing, and how we helped him see that self-compassion was the answer.
We'll discuss the power of treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even when you slip or relapse.
Don't give up hope - you can break free from addiction. Start with self-compassion, and we'll be here to support you every step of the way.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday May 11, 2023
Thursday May 11, 2023
Today we're going to talk about pornography addiction and how it can affect a marriage.
It's a problem that undermines safety, destroys trust, and creates a feeling of betrayal for the spouse.
But the good news is that there are three things you can do to address this problem and save your marriage from being stuck in a cycle of mistrust and pain.
When a relationship lacks safety, it can be hard for the other spouse to let their guard down and be vulnerable. The husband's addiction becomes a wedge between the couple, and it takes a toll on the relationship.
But it's important to understand that the husband is not the problem. The addiction is the problem, and the goal is to help the husband break out of the addiction and create a sense of safety and connection in the marriage.
Fear is what's driving the mistrust and pain in the relationship, and it's important to address the reasons behind the lack of trust and safety. Whether it's low self-worth, feelings of rejection, or ingrained habits, it's important to deal with the addiction directly and get the tools needed to overcome it.
Without directly addressing the addiction, the spouse will never feel safe, and the cycle of mistrust and pain will continue.
So, if you or someone you know is struggling with pornography addiction in a marriage, listen to this episode for practical tips on how to create safety, rebuild trust, and have the kind of relationship you desire.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday May 04, 2023
Thursday May 04, 2023
Struggling with pornography addiction can be a difficult road to travel, especially when trying to rebuild trust in a relationship.
Even when progress is made, there's often a fear of slipping back into old habits, which can leave both partners feeling discouraged and defeated.
In this episode, we'll explore how to approach this issue differently, so that you can feel peace and confidence as you make progress towards a healthier, happier life.
We'll discuss how slips and relapses don't come out of nowhere, but are the result of underlying reasons that can be identified and addressed.
join us as we help you navigate this challenging issue and find hope for a brighter future.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Monday May 01, 2023
Monday May 01, 2023
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After pornography addiction damage is a marriage, there are three critical conversations to have in order to heal and find closure.
So often couples will rehash the past, feel completely overwhelmed or avoid having a difficult conversations for fear of them leading to a fight.
In this episode I share with you not only with those three conversations are but how to have them in a productive way.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
Thursday Apr 20, 2023
“I’ll just quit tomorrow.”
“It’s not that big of a deal if I look at Instagram for a bit.”
“I won’t look at full-blown pornography, just a few pictures.”
These are the kinds of statements that indicate a man has been triggered into his acting out pattern in pornography addiction, and unless he intervenes and breaks that pattern, it’ll be impossible for him to find the freedom he truly wants at his core.
In this episode I share the predictable pattern that men get stuck in and how some specific strategies they can implement to exit the cycle and overcome it for good.
When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, , .
It's easy for men to get stuck feeling shame and want to avoid these difficult conversations, but in this episode I share with you
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Apr 13, 2023
Thursday Apr 13, 2023
When a marriage is impacted by pornography addiction, it causes a lot of damage and pain. One of the most important things in the healing process is having compassion and empathy for a wife who has been impacted, but unfortunately having conversations where there is compassion and empathy can be difficult.
It's easy for men to get stuck feeling shame and want to avoid these difficult conversations, but in this episode I share with you 2 specific ways you can approach hard conversations to allow compassion and empathy to naturally flow.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Apr 06, 2023
Thursday Apr 06, 2023
On the path to overcoming a pornography addiction, there are often slips and relapses, and those conversations are painful to have.
There is a clear, three-step framework I teach to clients to actually make those conversations feel productive and provide some hope about moving forward together despite the recent slip.
In this episode I share with you exactly how to have that conversation, which can actually bring you closer together if it's done correctly.
If it's not done correctly, it will increase the distance, mistrust, and hurt feelings so using this framework can help you navigate this tough situation.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Thursday Mar 30, 2023
Sexual intimacy is often times badly damaged after discovering a pornography addiction.
There are fears, feelings of inadequacy, triggers, and painful feeling that go along with intimacy as a result of pornography use.
In this episode I'll share with you three ways you can improve your intimacy, how to handle triggers, and ways to have conversations together that actually are productive and bring some closure and reassurance.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
Thursday Mar 23, 2023
When overcoming a pornography addiction, many men experience feelings of unworthiness or some version of feeling not good enough, failure, bad, or defective. Very often, a wife will experience unworthiness and not feeling good enough as a result of her husband’s addiction.
Overcoming feelings of unworthiness is such a critical part of the healing process for people because these painful emotions often lead to a relapse, which fuels more feelings of unworthiness.
In this episode I deep dive into three specific strategies you can use to help change this negative belief so you can feel more confident, experience your value, feel good about yourself, and move forward without slips.
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Thursday Mar 09, 2023
Creating boundaries in a marriage that's been affected by pornography addiction is a very common solution that offered.
I found that there are certain types of boundaries and the timing they are implemented can cause a detrimental effect on the health of a marriage unintentionally.
In this episode I share some principles to guide you as you are determining what boundaries to put in place and for how long you want them, and instead what to really be focusing on that get
For therapy with Sam:
Send an email here to get more information – sam@healingcouples.org
Join the free, private men’s Facebook community here for Q&As, live trainings, tools, and support:
https://www.facebook.com/groups/toolstoquit
Want access to a free course I created for my podcast listeners?
Simply go to www.coupleshealing.org and in the course you'll learn some top strategies to find healing from addiction and trauma, rebuild trust, experience freedom, and begin to reconnect with each other in the relationship.