179: Critical Advice For Men Who Aren't Free From Porn For 90 Days Yet

The 90-Day Freedom Trap: A Critical Warning

If you've been trying to quit pornography but can't stay free for more than 90 days, there's a crucial mistake you need to know about.

As a therapist, I see this same issue holding back almost every man who comes to me for help.

And wives, this matters for you too - it will help you understand whether your husband is taking the right steps to create real safety in your relationship.

So what's the problem? It's not about trying harder.

Many men put in tremendous effort, make progress for a few weeks or months, start feeling hopeful - then suddenly fall right back into old patterns.

The real issue is that their approach is incomplete.

Think of it like a gum ball machine: you need both the quarter AND the twist to get results.

Similarly, lasting freedom requires changes in two key areas: behavioral AND emotional. When men focus on just one, that's when the cycle keeps repeating.

Today, let's break down how to address both sides of this challenge.

 

 

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If after the 12 weeks you haven’t fully been able to quit, I’ll work with you 1-1 for free until you do.

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