175: When He Doesn’t Talk About His Urges, She Thinks He’s Just Hiding Them

Picture a relationship caught in a painful cycle: He struggles with pornography, she puts up walls to protect herself.

Things get better for a while when he tries to change, but then life gets busy, old habits return, and trust breaks again.

This pattern can repeat for years, leaving both people feeling hopeless.

One of the biggest challenges? When husbands stay silent about their struggles.

Many wives say this silence feels like secrecy, making it even harder to trust.

But here's the thing - many men stay quiet because they're afraid talking about urges will only make things worse.

In today's episode, we'll cover two game-changing topics:

First, how to talk about urges in a way that actually builds trust instead of destroying it.

Then, we'll dive into practical steps to address and eliminate these urges at their source.

Because here's the truth - while knowing how to discuss struggles is important, the real goal is freedom from them entirely.

Many men tell me they just want to feel normal again. Today, I'll show you how that's possible.

 

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