Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction

235: A Christian Man's Guide to Quit Porn in 2026

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Episode show notes:

If you’re a Christian man struggling with porn addiction and wondering why prayer, willpower, and accountability haven’t worked, this episode is your roadmap to real freedom in 2026.

In this powerful breakdown, licensed therapist Sam Tielemans explains why most Christian men stay stuck in pornography addiction — not because they lack faith, but because they’re using reactive tools instead of resolving the root cause of porn addiction.

You’ll learn why porn addiction is often a coping mechanism for unresolved shame, loneliness, stress, and emotional pain — and why simply trying to resist porn urges after they hit keeps you trapped in the cycle.

This episode covers:

• Why willpower alone doesn’t cure pornography addiction

• The real reason Christian men relapse into porn

• How unresolved emotional pain turns into porn urges

• The difference between managing porn addiction and eliminating it

• Why prayer and spiritual habits must be combined with skill development

• How to resolve the root cause of porn addiction instead of fighting symptoms

• What true freedom from pornography actually looks like

If you’ve searched for:
how to quit porn,
Christian porn addiction help,
how to stop watching pornography,
overcome lust as a Christian man,
porn addiction recovery,
freedom from porn addiction,
why do I keep relapsing,
or how to break free from pornography for good —

this episode will challenge what you’ve been taught and give you a new framework for lasting change.

You are not weak.
You are not spiritually defective.
You are not beyond help.

Porn addiction recovery isn’t about trying harder.
It’s about learning the right tools to resolve the emotional roots that drive compulsive pornography use.

If you’re ready to stop fighting symptoms and start healing what’s underneath, this episode will show you how.

234: Four Indicators That You'll Never Struggle With Porn Addiction Again

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and build a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

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Episode show notes:

How can a wife ever feel secure again after pornography use?
How do you know real change is happening—and that he won’t fall back into old patterns?

In this episode of the Couples Healing From Pornography Addiction podcast, we walk through four clear indicators that show when a man is doing the kind of work that actually prevents returning to pornography and helps rebuild emotional safety in a marriage.

This conversation is designed for both wives and husbands.

For wives, it speaks directly to the fear, anxiety, and lack of security that often linger long after discovery.

For husbands, it offers concrete milestones to aim for—so change isn’t vague, fragile, or dependent on willpower alone.

You’ll learn:

• Why transparency (not monitoring) helps calm anxiety and rebuild trust

• How remorse and emotional empathy restore connection after betrayal

• The specific skills men need to resolve urges at the root, manage stress, and work through shame

• Why consistent follow-through is what actually creates long-term security

This episode reframes porn addiction recovery away from promises, streaks, and fear-based vigilance—and toward root cause healing, emotional capacity, and relational safety.

If you’re navigating porn in marriage, struggling with pornography triggers, or looking for a healthier approach to relapse prevention that actually works, this episode offers clarity, direction, and hope.

 

233: When Small Things Trigger Big Reactions From Her After Pornography Addiction

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and build a plan to overcome your pornography use?

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Episode show notes:

Why does she still question him—even after weeks or months of no porn use? Why do her reactions sometimes feel extreme or come out of nowhere, especially when things finally seem to be improving?

In this episode, we break down one of the most misunderstood parts of porn addiction recovery in marriage: how betrayal trauma fills in the blanks during moments of uncertainty—and why it leads to strong emotional reactions from your wife.

You’ll discover:

• Why emotional safety breaks down even when the behavior stops

• The neuroscience behind how trauma fills in the blanks with the worst-case scenario

• How small triggers (like being on your phone or pulling away during a moment of intimacy) can feel like massive red flags to her

• The truth about relational triggers, and why rebuilding trust after porn means closing the uncertainty gap—not just stopping the behavior

• 8 real-life examples of what these situations look like (including during intimacy)

• What husbands can do to rebuild emotional connection and safety—without getting defensive or stuck in confusion

• How understanding her trauma response actually helps you overcome porn urges, stay consistent, and build a deeper relationship

Whether you’re trying to quit porn for good, rebuild connection after betrayal, or better understand what your wife is feeling, this episode is essential listening for couples navigating pornography triggers, emotional disconnection, and the path to lasting healing.

232: Never Relapse Again: How to Quit Porn For Good Without Willpower

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and build a plan to overcome your pornography use?

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Episode show notes:

Struggling with constant relapses in your porn addiction recovery journey — even when you’re highly motivated to quit? This episode reveals the real reason why willpower and discipline don’t work long-term… and what to do instead.

Whether you're a man trying to stop watching porn or a wife who’s trying to rebuild trust in the relationship, this episode will help you understand what’s actually driving the behavior — and how to eliminate porn relapses by building the skills to address the root cause.

You’ll learn:

• Why most porn addiction recovery plans fail — and how to break free without white-knuckling

• How to identify the emotional triggers, shame cycles, and unmet needs behind porn urges

• The specific skills men need to overcome pornography addiction for good

• Why fixing the urge itself doesn’t work (and what to focus on instead)

• How wives can feel safe again by seeing real, root-level progress — not just behavior management

• The truth about relapse prevention: It’s not about discipline — it’s about clarity and the right tools

• What emotional safety and connection look like when you’re healing from porn in marriage

If you’re ready to stop using porn as a coping mechanism, rebuild emotional connection, and finally experience freedom — this episode is your roadmap.

 

231: When He Doesn’t Follow Through: The Problem You’re Not Seeing

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Episode show notes:

So many men struggling with porn addiction think their biggest issue is a lack of discipline or motivation.

But what if the real problem isn’t effort… it’s clarity?

In this episode, we break down the three most common ability gaps that get in the way of real progress — and show how motivation often comes naturally once those gaps are removed.

Whether it’s the inability to follow through on sharing with a partner, getting stuck in the moment without a plan, or constantly losing the battle with your phone late at night… this episode will show you how to uncover the root cause of pornography urges and finally break the cycle.

We’ll walk through practical examples, common mistakes, and what actually works to build lasting momentum — so you don’t have to rely on willpower alone.

This isn’t about staying vigilant 24/7. It’s about building emotional clarity, porn relapse prevention tools, and the skills needed for long-term freedom.

You’ll learn:

• Why most men in porn addiction recovery confuse motivation with an ability problem

• The real reason follow-through breaks down in marriage (and how to fix it)

• How to stop white-knuckling urges and resolve the deeper patterns

• A proven process to start overcoming pornography triggers at the root

If you’re tired of guessing, slipping, and feeling stuck, this episode will help you stop spinning your wheels — and finally build a plan that works.

 

230: How to Quit Porn If Stress Is Your Biggest Trigger

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

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sam@healingcouples.org

 

Episode show notes:

If you’re struggling with porn addiction, constantly trying to quit porn, or stuck in cycles of stopping and starting porn recovery, this episode is for you.

Many men believe their problem with pornography is about self-control, discipline, or willpower. They tell themselves they just need better rules, more accountability, or stronger motivation to finally stop watching porn.

But after working with men across thousands of sessions as a licensed therapist, I’ve seen the real pattern behind porn addiction again and again:

Men don’t keep going back to porn because they’re weak.

They go back to porn because unresolved internal pressure builds until porn becomes the fastest escape.

In this episode, we break down what actually drives porn use, why so many men relapse even when they’re “doing well,” and what real porn addiction recovery looks like when you stop fighting urges and start resolving what causes them.

You’ll learn:

• Why most attempts to quit porn fail—even for highly motivated men

• The hidden emotional states that turn stress into automatic porn urges

• Why pornography addiction isn’t really about sex or desire

• How unresolved pressure, shame, and self-criticism fuel compulsive porn use

• Practical tools to stop porn urges before they even form

• How to move from white-knuckling to real, sustainable porn recovery

Through real client stories, this episode shows how men unintentionally internalize pressure as failure (“I’m not enough”), isolation (“I’m alone”), or urgency (“I need relief now”)—and how porn addiction becomes a coping mechanism when that pain has nowhere to go.

Instead of teaching you how to resist porn harder, this episode explains how to break the link between porn and relief. When the underlying pain is resolved, porn stops feeling necessary, and urges lose their power.

If you’ve ever said:

• “I know porn is hurting me, but I keep going back”

• “I can stop porn for a while, but it always comes back”

• “I want real porn addiction recovery, not another short streak”

…this episode will give you a completely different way to understand and overcome pornography addiction.

This episode is especially helpful if you:

• Feel stuck in cycles of quitting and relapsing with porn

• Are exhausted from fighting porn urges every day

• Want to understand the root cause of porn addiction

• Are looking for tools used in real porn addiction counseling, not surface-level advice

Porn doesn’t stop controlling you because you fight it harder.
It stops controlling you when the pain underneath it is resolved.

If you’re serious about quitting porn, rebuilding your life, and experiencing real freedom from porn addiction, this episode will change how you see the problem—and the solution.

229: The Step-By-Step Plan to Quit Porn in 2026 (it just works)

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Episode show notes:

Are you tired of going weeks—or even months—without porn, only to fall back into the same cycle again?

In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Sam Tielemans breaks down why most porn addiction recovery plans fail—and what actually works instead.

If you’ve tried managing urges with willpower, accountability partners, or distraction tools but still feel stuck, this conversation will shift everything.

Sam explains how to stop white-knuckling your way through urges and start identifying the root cause of pornography addiction—so you can finally find lasting freedom.

You’ll learn:

• Why the urge isn’t the problem (and what it’s really signaling)

• How to overcome porn urges by resolving emotional triggers like shame, stress, and disconnection

• The five essential skills for real, sustainable porn addiction recovery

• How to apply specific tools for relapse prevention based on what’s driving your urge

• Why real change doesn’t come from behavior control—but from healing the source

This episode goes beyond surface advice to give you a step-by-step roadmap to quit porn for good, rebuild emotional safety, and create long-term transformation—whether you're navigating your own healing or seeking to repair trust in your marriage.

 

 

228: New Tools to Overcome Lust and Pornography Addiction Urges

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Episode Show Notes:

Most men trying to quit porn are taught to fight lust, distract themselves, suppress urges, or “channel sexual energy” somewhere else. And for a while, those strategies might seem to work — until they don’t.

In this episode, I break down why many traditional approaches to porn addiction recovery actually keep men stuck, and what it really takes to develop mastery over lust without repression, panic, or constant willpower.

You’ll hear me unpack the three categories of urges — coping urges, habit-based urges, and biological urges — and why confusing them leads to relapse, frustration, and exhaustion in porn recovery. I also explain the critical difference between sexual arousal and lust, and why treating normal arousal like a moral failure fuels compulsive pornography use.

From there, I introduce a practical, repeatable framework for handling biological porn urges in real time — without distraction, suppression, or fantasy. This approach helps men stay present in their bodies, interrupt escalation, and experience sexual desire without turning to pornography.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why fighting lust often makes porn addiction worse

• The difference between sexual arousal and lust (and why it matters for quitting porn)

• How to identify whether an urge is emotional, habitual, or biological

• Why distraction and suppression fail in porn addiction recovery

• A step-by-step method for staying grounded when porn urges hit

• How to build long-term freedom from pornography without white-knuckling

This episode is for men who want more than short-term control — men who want to overcome porn addiction, stop cycling through urges and relapse, and build a calm, integrated relationship with their sexuality.

If you’re searching for real help with:
porn addiction recovery,
how to quit porn,
pornography addiction healing,
how to stop porn urges,
mastery over lust,
freedom from pornography,

this episode will give you clarity, language, and a framework you can actually use.

227: Rebuilding Trust After Porn Addiction Is Possible. Use This Blueprint.

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Episode show notes:

If you’ve quit porn — or you’re trying to — but your partner still doesn’t feel safe, this episode will help you understand why porn addiction recovery isn’t just about stopping the behavior. It’s about changing the patterns that created it.

In this episode, I break down a real, step-by-step trust rebuilding plan I created with a client working to overcome porn addiction and heal the damage caused by long-term pornography use. We talk about why promises alone don’t rebuild trust, why many men get stuck in cycles of “doing better” without feeling free, and why wives often stay triggered even when porn use has stopped.

You’ll learn:

• Why porn addiction recovery fails when it’s based on willpower instead of patterns

• How deception — not porn itself — breaks trust in relationships

• What actually helps a wife feel safe again after porn addiction

• How to replace secrecy with transparency during porn recovery

• The daily actions that create lasting freedom from pornography addiction

• Why emotional avoidance fuels porn use — and how to heal the root cause

This episode is for men who want to overcome porn addiction for good, not just manage urges, and for couples trying to rebuild trust after pornography addiction has damaged emotional safety.

If you’re searching for real help with:

• porn addiction recovery

• pornography addiction healing

• stopping porn permanently

• rebuilding trust after porn addiction

• understanding porn triggers

• freedom from pornography

this episode will give you clarity, direction, and a practical framework for real change — not through fear or control, but through consistency, emotional growth, and new patterns that last.

226: Seeking Women’s Attention to Validate Your Worth When Trying to Quit Porn Addiction

Want help uncovering the real reasons behind your urges and building a plan to overcome your pornography use?

Click here to book a free call with Sam to get help to overcome pornography – https://stopporn.info/ 

 

Have questions you want me to address on future podcast episodes?

Email me here: 

sam@healingcouples.org

 

Episode show notes:

In this episode, we dive deep into the real root cause of pornography addiction and why so many men feel stuck in a cycle of porn addiction, compulsive porn use, and porn relapse even when they genuinely want to change.

If you’ve been trying to overcome porn urges, struggling with constant pornography triggers, or fighting to implement strong relapse prevention strategies but still fall back into old patterns, this conversation reveals what’s actually driving the cycle beneath the surface.

We explore how unmet needs for worth, acceptance, and emotional stability fuel the urge to escape into porn, why external validation never satisfies the deeper wound behind porn addiction, and how shame blocks men from receiving the love and reassurance that would support real healing.

You’ll hear a powerful breakdown of why willpower alone can’t stop pornography compulsions, why avoiding triggers isn’t enough, and why so many men seek attention or emotional validation outside their marriage while also battling chronic porn addiction behaviors.

This episode is essential listening for anyone navigating porn addiction recovery, porn addiction counseling, emotional healing, rebuilding trust in marriage, or trying to understand what causes porn habits to feel so overwhelming.

Whether you’re working to stop porn for good or supporting someone you love through porn addiction recovery, this conversation offers a clear and compassionate look at the emotional and relational dynamics driving the cycle — and what finally begins to break it.